一生都要學習做人

** 一生都要學習做人 **
星雲大師有一位徒弟，大學畢業後，到夏威夷讀碩士，又到耶魯讀博士，花了好多年的時間，終於得到博士，非常歡喜。有一天他回來，對星雲說：「師父，我現在得到博士學位了，以後要再學習什麼呢？」星雲說：「學習做人。」學習做人是一輩子的事，沒有辦法畢業的。星雲覺得人生，不管是士農工商、各種人等，只要學習就有進步，我们需要學習的事。

第一、「學習認錯」。人常常不肯認錯，凡事都說是別人的錯，認為自己才是對的，其實不認錯就是一個錯。認錯的對象可以是父母、朋友、社會大眾、佛祖，甚至向兒女或是對我不好的人認錯，自己不但不會少了什麼，反而顯得你有度量。學習認錯是美好的，是一個大修行。

第二、「學習柔和」。人的牙齒是硬的，舌頭是軟的，到了人生的最後，牙齒都掉光了，舌頭卻不會掉，所以要柔軟，人生才能長久，硬反而吃虧。心地柔軟了，是修行最大的進步。一般形容執著的人說，你的心、你的性格很冷、很硬，像鋼鐵一樣。如果我們像禪門說的調息、調身、調心，慢慢調伏像野馬、像猴子的這顆心，令它柔軟，人生才能活得更快樂、更長久。

第三、「學習生忍」。這世間就是忍一口氣，風平浪靜，退一步海闊天空；忍，萬事都能消除。忍就是會處理、會化解，用智慧、能力讓大事化小、小事化無。各位要生活、要生存、要生命，有了忍，可以認清世間的好壞、善惡、是非，甚至接受它。

第四、「學習溝通」。缺乏溝通，就會產生是非、爭執與誤會。現在中國大陸、香港和台灣，兩岸三地最重要的就是溝通，相互了解、相互體諒、相互幫助，大家都是龍兄虎弟，互相爭執、不溝通怎麼能和平呢？

第五、「學習放下」。人生像一只皮箱，需要用的時候提起，不用的時就把它放下，應放下的時候，卻不放下，就像拖著沉重的行李，無法自在。人生的歲月有限，認錯、尊重、包容才能讓人接受，放下才自在啊！

第六、「學習感動」。我們看到人家得好處，要歡喜；看到好人好事，要能感動。感動是一個愛心、菩薩心、菩提心，在我幾十年的歲月裡，有許多事情、語言感動了我，所以我也很努力的想辦法讓別人感動。

第七、「學習生存」。為了生存，我要維護身體健康，身體健康不但對自己有利，也讓朋友、家人放心，所以也是孝親的行為。

happydudes live

27.11.09 my band happydude was perform live again for the leo charity concert at pei teck primary school hall. this time we was 'special' a bit for the other normal performance ... cause this time we all wear the cartoon mask to the stage... haha .. happydude mah ... must wear funny funny thing to bring happy to people... so that day after the rehearsal we all 5 big guy went to toys shop and choose our favor cartoon character mask.... is sound silly but it really funny .. we went few shop to find the mask .. and finally we went to one toys shop near at the bunga raya road there and found the thing we want... we actually test the and play with the mask on the spot at that shop.. i dunno other people will scared by us not... 5 big guy play with the small kid cartoon mask...
we end up with me with the power rangers mask, vocalist jian lun with the spiderman , drummer billy with the dog mask, lead guitar kkm with ultraman, rhythm guitar poke lek with Donald duck mask.....

power ranger... do ignore the hand behind.. haha
that night we perform 2 song .. one is i wanna from all american reject and other one is love story cover by right coast...

happydudes....

LCC night

噩梦

兜兜转转了那么多圈

最终还是回到了原点

原以为是美好的梦境

却发现是噩梦的开始

挣扎还是挣扎不出来

始终没从噩梦中醒来

难道就逃离不出噩梦

泪从眼出累从不停止

逃不出魔掌梦的破灭

逃避也抵挡不住压力

现来的悔意又有何用

早知如此又何必当初

雨

雨一滴一滴落下

滑落在身上寒冷

风吹过有点刺骨

衣裳也抵挡不住

寒冷无助和无奈

泪不知不觉流落

多么无奈也没法

忍耐还是忍耐着

雨越大风不停止

雨后的彩虹何处

心中的冷漠何灭

雨过天晴何时到

何时何刻何时晴

雨中漫步寒冷的

漫长的路还得走

没终点无法停下

All American Reject live in bukit jalil car park

I not sure you all know about it or not , at 31.10.09 Saturday 6pm, AAR(all american reject) come malaysia to open their live concert in bukit jalil car park !!! i was waiting for this concert til my 'neck become long' already. haha
so on that day around 4 pm i went pudu station to fetch my friend who come from melaka just to join this concert, after that we all take our dinner at 5 something cause we know that the concert wont end so early ...

we reach bkt jalil around 5.30 pm .. there already many people waiting at there !!
the crowd on the entrance gate !!

due to my cut queue skill so we manage to stand in the very front place to watch the concert!! haha all my friends say thank to me cause i help them cut queue..!! hehe.. the concert start around 7 something cause they need time to settle down the crowd and the sound check...

the crowd waiting the concert to begin

actually that day the organization got invite 3 more local band to perform on that night too, the 1st band to performed is a local band call DISAGREE.



they mainly play the soft rock song... so their performance is can just consider as the warm up for the show.

the 2nd band to perform is call pop shuvit is a local band too ..

they mostly perform rap and techno rock song on that night !! i like their song , they are so great , i think their most famous song 'mara bahaya' when they perform this song that day the crowd was so high and follow to sing with them !!

the 3rd band to performed is call one buck short

i not really know about this band so i not going discuss more on it ... paiseh

FINALLY !!!! after that 3 local band finish !!!! the main band is come !!!! the following band just after the one buck short is AAR!!!! the all american reject!!!!!
even though we almost wait til one hour to let them do the sound check .. but not going to stop the crowd passion to watch aar like performance !!! finally at 9 something aar come on the stage and perform their first song move along!!!!



soli that my phone camera is not good at night .. paiseh can really see the picture....

we crowd is high til the climate when they come out and perform the 1st move along song !!! almost all people was singing with them!!!! the second song there perform is falling apart .. this is one of their new album song .. this song is high enough to let the crowd sing and high with them!!
the 3rd song was dirty little secret ... one of the new album song too ...
the crowd become super climate when they sing the i wanna and give you hell song !!! i almost cannot hear the music from the stage .. what can i hear is just the sound of the crowd !! is really amazing !!!!

aar is really amazing and incredible cause when they perform in live the vocal and instrument sound is totally same with the one we hear from cd.. that mean they really got the 'real kung fu ' to sing on the stage!!!!!
hope they will come to malaysia again next time .. i sure will go and support them again!!

simple sharing

It been long time i didn't come back to updated my blog here... its because of lazy ?? or its because of too busy?? haha me myself also not sure .. its actually quite a lot of thing happened recently but i just no mood shared it on my blog .. but finally now i got the mood to blogging.. so i want to shared all the thing happened to me recently to here ...
hehe 1st of all, i have been finish my industrial training and back to campus, due to this semester i need to take my fyp .. so i just like other people 1st day of the school reopen already rush to faculty to meet and 'beg' the lecture to adopt us as their fyp student .. for my case.. i totally cant find any lecturer that can adopt me on Monday!! that was scary man .. i start to think other way to settle it .. and the only way to settle it is propose a title myself to lecturer.. so at monday night i use whole night just to think a suitable title for my fyp... and lastly i come out with the title call intelligent alarm clock and plan to propose to my lecturer.. on tuesday.. everything is running smooth on tuesday.. my lecturer accept my title and want to adopt me under him.. so this is happy ending right?? hehe no!!! on wednesday i receive an email from other lecturer telling me that he accept me as his fyp student.. (this lecturer is the one that i want join his title, but that time he told me got 5 ppl under his consideration list .. so i was worry and plan to propose other title to other lecturer)... so now mean i got 2 title.. is the vise versa case from monday which i got n title at all!!! that is really a hard time for me to choose btw this 2 title.. but finally i made up my mind to choose the title that i want initially ... and pass the tile that i proposed to my housemate... so this is what happened for my starting period of my fyp.. hope everything will be smooth and nice til the end of my fyp...

Beside the fyp case .. i was felt so happy that i can meet back all my fellow frd that jz come back from industrial training, we already didn't meet each other for around 5 month ... haha what i wan to say is ..ermm there is nothing much change for them, fat still fat, slim still slim , bird ppl still bird ppl.. haha but is really happy that can meet them again..

This semester i only take one subject and 1 fyp... ermmm is really been a long time i didn't touch any text book!!! so is not 'use to be' when i enter the first lecture,... i need to face back those lecture slide and lecture note!!1 omg .. all my nightmare is coming back along with all this slide and note!!! my brain is already jam without study in this 4 month .. but lucky not only me like that .. almost all my coursemate face the same problem too.. the most funny thing is when the lecturer give us a simple quiz to test us the simple formula that we have learn during our beta years... no one of my fr can do that !!!! walao ..... i think really is time for us to wash our brain and keep our brain on ready to study mood already..
i think that all i want to shared this time .. update u all next time ..
c ya

真實的擁有

你問,是寧可從來都沒有得到過,還是寧可得到又失去？

如果從未得到,就像嚮往一處很美卻不曾到達的風景,

心中永遠都有一種渴求,一種不甘心,那將成為心裡的一個空洞。

如果得到又失去,雖然會心痛,卻能把這個痛轉化為一種了然,一種澈悟。



所以,親愛的,不要為了害怕失去而不敢追求,

也不要為了失去的痛苦而追悔當初,因為那個從無到有、再從有到無的過程是你的,

因為那個擁有時如在天堂、失去時如在地獄的經驗是你的,

親愛的,這才是真實的擁有。

至於你所失去的,不過是天使交給你暫時保管的天堂寶物。

genting@itp farewell trip

waw .. time really pass super fast witout us notice... i already finish my 4 month itp in eonenet.com( my itp company) .. all this happen just like one minute ... i still remember the 1st day i go to work ... so excited and scared .. but now i already finish my itp.. waw cant belive it ...

hehe this post i wanna shared the memory during my itp... my main task is help customer create and edit their website... tell you what before i go eonenet i totally got no knowledge on html and java script... so the first few week i really made my senior Mr yap heachache cause i not helping him to solve problem yet helping him to create more problem ... haha but after he teach me many 'real kungfu' i can handle the job quite well liao .. thks u ya ah yap...

i really learn alot of skill during my itp but sad thing is no one is related to my engineering field... sigh ...nvm la atleast i can learn new thing mah ...right..haha. during this itp , i was touched the marketing field .. my company main income is actually from the seminar..we provide the internet marketing seminar to teach ppl how to create and start a business on internet.. i got incharge to sale our seminar package during my itp ...tell you what .. our full 2 days seminar cost about 13K ringgit malaysia !!!! but we all can attained it with free!! haha nice leh ...

i really appreciate and feel happy for my itp time.. thks all onenet staff that help me and teach me a lot.. thks ah yap , apple , pelvin , alex , dennis , wilson , and miss mooi ..

we have organise a farewell trip to genting, but we spent all the time for photo shooting and casino ... haha but we all do enjoy the trip ... here i post some pic for that trip...

me and ah yap

miss apple

pelvin

dennis

wilson ng

the only one group pic

sorry alex i dont have your pic so cant post here..

for more pic pls go my fb ... reach me with this email : kelvin_meng54@hotmail.com

IB NIGHT PERFORMANCE

09.09.09, that day my band 'happy dude' was been ask to perform for the ib night event, the first problem we face is that me and my other friends jian(rythm guitarist) is currently working in kl so this become a big problem for us to travel back to melaka for practice, at last we decided that every weekend we travel back to melaka just for practice then travel back to kl again .... what a tired journey , but we all enjoy it actually... haha. As all my bandmate say that 'die for music' haha we can do anything just for music.

i would like borrow this opportunityto introduce my bandmate here , ok 1st i would like to introduce my group leader, he is the one who gather all of us together and form this band , his name is kkm (u can either call him kukumeng, kwong kar meng ,kar meng) he is lead guitar for our band.

this is him kkm ( we usually call him kukumeng)

ok . the second ppl i wanna introduce is jian lun the rythm guitarist, he is my classmate actually know this fellow since first years in study in mmu, funny guy , talent in guitar , and got a bit fat ^^oh ya he is our vocal for our band too ...


now is the drummer turn, his name is billy , an english education guy, only know english , langsung taklak tahu mandarin , haha so some time when we discuss something in mandarin he sure look blur blur and dunno what the hell is going on... damn funny everytime i need to translate the the meaning to him, he is a funny guy too, can play well in drum , the 1st time i meet him was we plan to join one competition .. oh ya all the girl out there he is a handsome and muscle guy oh .. hehe ask me for his contact if you want it.


lastly is me ..haha the bassist , nothing to talk abt me .. hehe so just show the picture enuogh


here i post some picture during that night

before the show start , sound test ...



for more picture you can add me in facebook ... u can reach me by this email kelvin_meng54@hotmail.com
ok la that all for now.

Canon 450D 1st try

Lat night me and my super wife bring along our new family member (our small baby XD) canon 450D to bukit jalil for our canon 450D virgin test. haha, we really long time din't play with the dslr already so the picture we take last night is really a bit low standard.. haha any how i decided to upload our small baby virgin product to my blog. hope that you all can give me some comment. thks ya

1) lonely toys

2) lonely toys again

3) 'lala' @.@

4) Stadium Nasional

5) building inside Stadium Nasional

6) building inside Stadium Nasional

7)building inside Stadium Nasional

8) tree

9) UFO

10)dunno what this thing call ^^

11) building from far

12) Road to Stadium Nasional

13) Pokok Kelapa XD

14) Building And Pool

15) That building again

16) Same Building Again and Again

17) my small wife and big wife ^^

18) My Small Wife

下雨天的火窝

前几天的一个下雨天的晚上我和我的大老婆去了一家在我们家附近的steamboat店里吃晚餐， 不懂是不是下雨天的关系当我们进到那间店的时候我们就觉得那间店很暖和,很舒服，我们二话不说立刻就坐下来order了。
其实我们经常都有来着间店的，这间店的东西都不错也很便宜。 所以我们还满喜欢去的。














还没上菜时先拍一张。哈哈

我们order 了两个人吃的粥地和清汤地的火窝





我们一部份的料。。。。

我们两个人才吃了三十多块，真的不会贵。

sick

i finally fall to sick after the long long healthy time XD, cant remember i dint fall into sick for how many years already.
actually i already feel something weird for my body before i went to sleep last night, i know myself maybe will fall into sick soon .. but i not concern about that weird feeling and directly go sleep... when i wake up at the morning i really sure that i was sick ... i got fever ,cough and little bit flu... sien .. i sms my colleague to tell my boss i take mc today and continue back to sleep. haha when i wake up there is already 10 something am ... what a nice sleep...
after that i go c doctor and get the medicine from there. the doctor ask me if my fever keep continue after 2 day then i have to go general hospital for h1n1 test..
hopefully i will be cure soon la..
that all what i wanna shared this time .. i still sick now ... going to sleep soon...

haha i sleep whole afternoon ... how nice..

妮妮给我的post的comment (你们也给些comment吧）哈哈

1、男人很容易喜歡一個女人，卻不輕易深愛一個女人。
~*~ 喜欢和爱本来就是两件事 ~*~

2、男人在感情的王國裡，絕對是個昏君。女人只要肯奉承，他什麼都答應。
~*~ 中史出现很多昏君，这要怪他身边的人咯？ ~*~

3、男人普遍喜歡外表溫柔的女子，寧願把精力花在事業或其他地方，也不願全用來征服女人。
~*~ 普遍·温柔？ ~*~

4、男人都不太重視對自己太好的女人。
~*~ 那就是不要管他死活是吗? ~*~

5、男人都怕女人死纏爛打，但喜歡用同樣的方式對付沒追上的女人。
~*~ 有时，人就是犯贱 ~*~

6、男人的夢想之一，是擁有可以超越友誼界限的紅顏知己。
~*~ 红颜知己， (=.+)" ~*~

7、男人會以很理性的態度取捨愛情，就算他感性上很愛一個人，但當他清楚她並非一個好妻子時，他會放棄她，另找合適家居生活的那一 個。男人認為戀愛和結婚是兩回事，很多時候，他拖延結婚，根本原因就是他認為身邊的女人不是想像中的好妻子。
~*~ 当女友是一回事，老婆又是另一回事 ~*~

8、男人對妻子的要求，可能比對戀人更低——在外型上，在性格上則更高。
~*~ 贤妻良母？ ~*~

9、懂得欣賞聰明女人的男人不多，和她們在一起，男人總覺得缺乏安全感受。
~*~ 那，女人要变笨才行？ 男人，你们也未免太没安全感了吧？ ~*~

10、當有喜歡的女人在場時，男人會有如下表現：話多；顯得聰明些；比平日慷慨；會把話題扯到得意成就上；會刻意顯露平時少見的好心 腸；多說一些自以為好笑的笑話引大家（其實主攻目標是那個她啦）發笑。
~*~ 真的吗？ ~*~

11、一個男人同時是大男人和小男人的化身。大男人的他，希望女人完全遷就他，令他放心；小男人的他，意識到自己懦弱無能的一面，猶豫不決。說穿了，他們很多都是忌妒心重的小器鬼，又像孩子般容易被哄騙。
~*~ 男人 = 心底还是小孩 ~*~

12、男人追求女人的時候願意割捨一切自由，追到了越來越感到自由的重要性。
~*~ 没办法，世上没两全其美的事。 ~*~

13、男人內心隱藏著狩獵心態，追捕，得到後就要馴服她，讓她變成可在家飼養的乖乖動物。
~*~ 什么驯服啊？女人是动物？ ~*~

14、男人都有愛當英雄的自大心態，所以很容易愛上向他訴苦的女人。
~*~ 一肚子苦水也好哦？ ~*~

15、男人希望身邊的女人明白：帶著同一個女人去所有地方，實在是一件很悶的事（或許女人也這樣覺得吧，只是不好意思說），所以和其他女人適度約會，是調劑和放鬆，完全可以沒有其他企圖。
~*~ 每次带不一样的女人能让男人开心 ~*~

16、兩性關係中，女人需要男人告訴她，他願意為她做任何犧牲，男人則需要女人告訴他，他很能幹。
~*~ 好，男人，你能干 ~*~

17、男人自以為是的多情，常常是女人眼中不折不扣的薄倖。
~*~ 一个人最大的缺点不是自私、多情、 野蛮、 任性，而是偏执地爱一个不爱自己的人。问世间情为何物？猪八戒的名言。 ~*~

18、在男人心底，親熱到哪個程度，就是和女人的戀情發展到什麼程度。
~*~ 天！ ~*~

19、男人每隔一段時間，就有情緒和體力跌到谷底的幾天，不想見任何人（包括最喜歡的人），躲起來翻翻書，聽聽音樂，看看影碟或狂打電玩發泄。
~*~ Emo 的男生 ~*~

20、有過戀愛經驗的男人都知道：女人是不能不騙的，類似像：“我會永遠愛你”，“我一直都會像現在這樣疼你”，“什麼時候需要我，一個電話我就立刻趕來”，“我以後再也不會像愛你這樣去愛另外一個人”這種話是必須要說但永遠堅持不了的“騙話”，誰讓女人這麼愛聽呢！
~*~ 不要再相信男人的骗话啦 ~*~

21、男人遇上舊情人多半會自作多情，以為與自己有過感情的人，內心總會保存一份情，幻想愛過他的女人永遠愛他。女人只會美化眼前的男人，男人卻不自覺地美化逝去的戀情。所以男人比女人更認同：分手還是朋友。不管是甩人還是被甩，男人多半願意與前女友繼續保持聯絡。
~*~ 我好像是相反的 ~*~

22、女人在意男友以前的女友，男人卻在意女人離開他後找個什麼樣的男友。如果分手後仍是朋友的，他會時不時批評她的男友。
~*~ 不肯认输的男人 ~*~

23、男人跌入愛河，很少問她的過去，不太關心她和哪種男人談過戀愛，因為男人較注重女人的外表——外表就是現在。
~*~ 不是内心？ ~*~

24、男人不願聽心上人的舊戀情，因為一想到自己愛的人之前和其他男人有過肌膚之親，就難以忍受。
~*~ 那就不要想咯 ~*~

25、面對兩個對自己有愛意的人，女人會在徘徊中選擇，男人不會為此煩惱——他其實只想同時追上兩個人呢！
~*~ 经典的一脚踏两条船，小心阴沟里翻船 ~*~

26、男人愛上一個女人，不一定對她有強烈的親熱衝動，反倒對一些他只是喜歡而不愛的女人，衝動更大些。
~*~ 讨厌这句话 ~*~

27、男人很容易被女人吸引，但他分得出哪種渴求出於性還是愛，大概知道能從她身上得到什麼。
~*~ 更讨厌这句话！ ~*~

28、女人主動示愛，對男人來說，唯一的損失就是縮短了那段朦朦朧朧，若有若無的浪漫日子。
~*~ T.T ~*~

29、男人害怕結婚——其實真正害怕的不是婚姻這回事，而是婚禮的繁瑣過程和女人的挑剔要求。


30、不少男人第一眼愛上女人的背後，其實隱藏著單純而不可告人的目的：第一眼看見她就想和她有肌膚之親。只是為了得到她們，他們吃力地陪她們先玩女人喜歡的浪漫遊戲。
~*~ ‘显’掉 ~*~

31、男人看到喜歡他的女人（就算他對她沒太大感覺）跟其他男人稍微熱情一點，即使是朋友般的擁抱或親吻，心裡也會不舒服，知道她被人追求更會妒忌，因為骨子裡男人不想輸給任何人。


32、男人相信證明自身出色的重要表現之一是：擁有更多的女人。事業上越出色的男人，往往需要更多女人的仰慕和傾心以體現他的超凡脫俗。


33、男人在分手問題上拖泥帶水，其實是想把去留的難題丟給女人，減少自己決定帶來的內疚感。
~*~ 这叫做不负责任，要嘛就干干脆脆的分手嘛 ~*~

34、男人說的“未來”是6個月到1年時間，女人的定義則可以是10年到50年。當男人愛上一個女人，他只會想像如何在短暫的未來與她親密發展；女人則幻想到戀愛，結婚，生孩子乃至如何白頭到老。
~*~ 体验过了，同样一句话，男人和女人都会有不一样的定义 ~*~

35、男人基本是都小器，大方是裝出來的。表面上他們不拘小節，其實內心和女人一樣，計算得清清楚楚。


36、女性較容易坦白心事，男人恰恰相反。遇到煩惱，他們找個別好友傾訴時，不會說得很完整，總會給自己留最後一點面子。男人的傾訴都是經過包裝或刻意切碎的，不讓一個人知道全部。這也是女人很難了解男人的原因——他們根本不想被人徹底了解。
~*~ 我对自己很坦白 ~*~

37、一個男人可以愛上兩個女人，但究竟喜歡哪個多一點，他多半分不清楚。


38、男人看待婚外情比女人實際，因為他有更多機會涉及婚外情，而且他心裡明白——花心隱藏在男人的天性中。


39、男人要變心，其實和女人是否注意保持美麗儀表沒直接關係，那只是他的藉口之一。當他厭倦一個女人，不管她多漂亮，只要是她以外的任何女人，他都覺得比她有吸引力。
~*~ 变心的男人，不再是以前的那个男人 ~*~

40、成熟男人對於崇拜他的少女，抵抗力是相當弱的。

song to be play at next jamming

castaway, basketcase, when i come around, 21 guns, all by green day
i dont love you, disenchanted, i'm not okay by chemical romance
anthem 2, all the small thing,dammit by blink 182
dont look back in anger, stand by me by oasis
hold on, the anthem by good charlote
franco unamerican by nofx
all my fault by fenixtx
gotta be some one, letter to you, only one
green day pasalaqua

the 1st jamming in my itp

last night i finally got the chance to go jamming with my new form band in kl.... there are only 4 people which is
rythm guitar/vocal = jian
lead guitar/vocal = mike
bass = meng
drum = kk
even this is new form band but we quite enjoy the moment also. due to we still not know each other style yet so last night we only can play few 'complete' song.. haha other song is just simply play ... but overall the band is still consider good and we all do enjoy the music last night..
we decided every thursday go jam together again. this is our 4 big guy thurday 9.30pm date haha.... btw we still looking for a vocal ... no matter guy or girl both are welcome to join us.

no pic this time sorry ..........

我家的小可爱

这次我想介绍我家的小可爱给大家
姓名：明嘉颖
出生日期：13.2.2009
性别：女
体重：secret（哈哈）
身高：secret（哈哈）

男人的秘密。。。

1、男人很容易喜歡一個女人，卻不輕易深愛一個女人。

2、男人在感情的王國裡，絕對是個昏君。女人只要肯奉承
，他什麼都答應。

3、男人普遍喜歡外表溫柔的女子，寧願把精力花在事業或
其他地方，也不願全用來征服女人。

4、男人都不太重視對自己太好的女人。

5、男人都怕女人死纏爛打，但喜歡用同樣的方式對付沒追
上的女人。

6、男人的夢想之一，是擁有可以超越友誼界限的紅顏知己
。

7、男人會以很理性的態度取捨愛情，就算他感性上很愛一
個人，但當他清楚她並非一個好妻子時，他會放棄她，另找
合適家居生活的那一 個。男人認為戀愛和結婚是兩回事，很多時候，他拖延結婚
，根本原因就是他認為身邊的女人不是想像中的好妻子。

8、男人對妻子的要求，可能比對戀人更低——在外型上，
在性格上則更高。

9、懂得欣賞聰明女人的男人不多，和她們在一起，男人總
覺得缺乏安全感受。

10、當有喜歡的女人在場時，男人會有如下表現：話多；
顯得聰明些；比平日慷慨；會把話題扯到得意成就上；會刻
意顯露平時少見的好心 腸；多說一些自以為好笑的笑話引大家（其實主攻目標是那
個她啦）發笑。

11、一個男人同時是大男人和小男人的化身。大男人的他
，希望女人完全遷就他，令他放心；小男人的他，意識到自
己懦弱無能的一面，猶豫不決。說穿了，他們很多都是忌妒
心重的小器鬼，又像孩子般容易被哄騙。

12、男人追求女人的時候願意割捨一切自由，追到了越來
越感到自由的重要性。

13、男人內心隱藏著狩獵心態，追捕，得到後就要馴服她
，讓她變成可在家飼養的乖乖動物。

14、男人都有愛當英雄的自大心態，所以很容易愛上向他
訴苦的女人。

15、男人希望身邊的女人明白：帶著同一個女人去所有地
方，實在是一件很悶的事（或許女人也這樣覺得吧，只是不
好意思說），所以和其他女人適度約會，是調劑和放鬆，完
全可以沒有其他企圖。

16、兩性關係中，女人需要男人告訴她，他願意為她做任
何犧牲，男人則需要女人告訴他，他很能幹。

17、男人自以為是的多情，常常是女人眼中不折不扣的薄
倖。

18、在男人心底，親熱到哪個程度，就是和女人的戀情發
展到什麼程度。

19、男人每隔一段時間，就有情緒和體力跌到谷底的幾天
，不想見任何人（包括最喜歡的人），躲起來翻翻書，聽聽
音樂，看看影碟或狂打電玩發泄。

20、有過戀愛經驗的男人都知道：女人是不能不騙的，類
似像：“我會永遠愛你”，“我一直都會像現在這樣疼你”
，“什麼時候需要我，一個電話我就立刻趕來”，“我以後
再也不會像愛你這樣去愛另外一個人”這種話是必須要說但
永遠堅持不了的“騙話”，誰讓女人這麼愛聽呢！

21、男人遇上舊情人多半會自作多情，以為與自己有過感
情的人，內心總會保存一份情，幻想愛過他的女人永遠愛他
。女人只會美化眼前的男人，男人卻不自覺地美化逝去的戀
情。
所以男人比女人更認同：分手還是朋友。不管是甩人還是被
甩，男人多半願意與前女友繼續保持聯絡。

22、女人在意男友以前的女友，男人卻在意女人離開他後
找個什麼樣的男友。如果分手後仍是朋友的，他會時不時批
評她的男友。

23、男人跌入愛河，很少問她的過去，不太關心她和哪種
男人談過戀愛，因為男人較注重女人的外表——外表就是現
在。

24、男人不願聽心上人的舊戀情，因為一想到自己愛的人
之前和其他男人有過肌膚之親，就難以忍受。

25、面對兩個對自己有愛意的人，女人會在徘徊中選擇，
男人不會為此煩惱——他其實只想同時追上兩個人呢！

26、男人愛上一個女人，不一定對她有強烈的親熱衝動，
反倒對一些他只是喜歡而不愛的女人，衝動更大些。

27、男人很容易被女人吸引，但他分得出哪種渴求出於性
還是愛，大概知道能從她身上得到什麼。

28、女人主動示愛，對男人來說，唯一的損失就是縮短了
那段朦朦朧朧，若有若無的浪漫日子。

29、男人害怕結婚——其實真正害怕的不是婚姻這回事，
而是婚禮的繁瑣過程和女人的挑剔要求。

30、不少男人第一眼愛上女人的背後，其實隱藏著單純而
不可告人的目的：第一眼看見她就想和她有肌膚之親。只是
為了得到她們，他們吃力地陪她們先玩女人喜歡的浪漫遊戲
。

31、男人看到喜歡他的女人（就算他對她沒太大感覺）跟
其他男人稍微熱情一點，即使是朋友般的擁抱或親吻，心裡
也會不舒服，知道她被人追求更會妒忌，因為骨子裡男人不
想輸給任何人。

32、男人相信證明自身出色的重要表現之一是：擁有更多
的女人。事業上越出色的男人，往往需要更多女人的仰慕和
傾心以體現他的超凡脫俗。

33、男人在分手問題上拖泥帶水，其實是想把去留的難題
丟給女人，減少自己決定帶來的內疚感。

34、男人說的“未來”是6個月到1年時間，女人的定義
則可以是10年到50年。當男人愛上一個女人，他只會想
像如何在短暫的未來與她親密發展；女人則幻想到戀愛，結
婚，生孩子乃至如何白頭到老。

35、男人基本是都小器，大方是裝出來的。表面上他們不
拘小節，其實內心和女人一樣，計算得清清楚楚。

36、女性較容易坦白心事，男人恰恰相反。遇到煩惱，他
們找個別好友傾訴時，不會說得很完整，總會給自己留最後
一點面子。男人的傾訴都是經過包裝或刻意切碎的，不讓一
個人知道全部。這也是女人很難了解男人的原因——他們根
本不想被人徹底了解。

37、一個男人可以愛上兩個女人，但究竟喜歡哪個多一點
，他多半分不清楚。

38、男人看待婚外情比女人實際，因為他有更多機會涉及
婚外情，而且他心裡明白——花心隱藏在男人的天性中。

39、男人要變心，其實和女人是否注意保持美麗儀表沒直
接關係，那只是他的藉口之一。當他厭倦一個女人，不管她
多漂亮，只要是她以外的任何女人，他都覺得比她有吸引力
。

40、成熟男人對於崇拜他的少女，抵抗力是相當弱的。

company bbq night = hungry night

last night my compnay stuff organize a stuff bbq gathering night.... initially we all tot that will be an easy and fun gathering .... but who know ... due to 'technical' problem we almost spend around 1 and half hour to set up the fire and get the all the food ready ... by that time is already almost 10 pm .... walao at 10 pm only we start to grill our chicken and other side food.... that time really hungry til die already ... but this time due to the 'skill' problem almost all the 'hot chick' become 'black chick' sigh ... maybe because we all too hungry so we all 'close one eyes' to eat that 'black chick' also .... but i only manage to sapu few chicken wings and some side food only other all sapu by those hungry ghost already.... sigh what a wonderful bbq night ... spend whole nite only manage to eat few thing and end up with empty stomach...
overall this still consider a nice gathering la cause after the bbq we all gather and start to talk abt the company gossip... i know many of my company political problem and our boss 'private' stuff.... haha i just wonder is that all the stuff will talk abt the comonay bad thing after the working hour?
haha
ok la that all i wanna shared now.... i only manage to take some pic with my phone cause the situation is too dark and no one of us bring camera also..